How to Outwit Online Dating
Glo's writer looks at the algorithms of matchmaking in the digital age
So after a handful of tepid dates with Darryl, my 92 percent match, I suspended my rule on high match scores and replied to a few guys I normally wouldn't: a writer for an ultra-conservative magazine, a rabid sports fan, some dude who quoted hip-hop lyrics in normal conversation. Numerically speaking, none of them stood a chance. But I no longer worry myself with the numbers; after all, no algorithm can capture something as intangible as chemistry. And even if it could, I fear a world where all my dates look like Darryl: smart, shy, appropriately well-read—and, in the end, all too familiar.
Recently I went so far as to change the "looking for" line in my profile. Most people write something about the kinds of dates they want to go on or the type of person they want to meet. One of my friends says, "You should message me if you want to hang out on a porch." Another, "You should message me if you're not a weirdo and you think we have things in common." Mine used to contain some flip line about books and bars and indie music.
Now it reads, "You should message me if you can teach me something."
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