10 Surprising Ways to Test Your Compatibility
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Together Forever?1 of 11
By Paige Brettingen
He hates olives; you hate olives. He knows all the words to Piano Man, you do too. It seems like a match made in heaven, but is it? Here are ten experiments—from paying attention to his pronoun use to monitoring his walking pace—that will help you figure out if the two of you are meant to be, or if your flame will burn out fast.
Yawn With Me2 of 11
Exhaustion rarely does a couple any good, but if you notice that your partner's yawns don't occur shortly after yours, it could be a sign you're out of sync. Swedish researchers observing chimpanzees found that close couples reciprocated each other's yawns quicker than the chimps that were unattached. While studies haven't been done on humans yet, the scientists believe the results translate since "contagious yawning" is a trait of human behavior that usually starts around age 4 or 5.
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Here's a fun experiment to try, especially early on in a relationship: Cross your legs, scratch your arm or pick up your drink and notice whether your beau matches your movements. You're prompting "interactional synchrony," a term coined to describe how one partner will mimic the other unconsciously as their attraction and comfort with each other grows. If he follows your movements, all signs point to smitten.
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Pitch Perfect4 of 11
Researchers at Albright College discovered that men and women alter their voices when speaking to lovers versus friends. When chatting with someone they were romantically attracted to, the participants began to match the other person's voice, with women speaking in a lower pitch and men speaking in a higher one. According to researchers, this effect "represents desire for affiliation and intimacy" and is a "way to communicate affection and relational connection—'I am one with you.'"
Hand Reader5 of 11
The future of your relationship may be in your hands, literally. One way to test compatibility is to measure the tip of your middle finger to where it meets the palm. If the finger is three-quarters the length of the palm or more, your fingers are considered long. If not, they're short. Those with long fingers are said to be more patient and attuned to details while those with short fingers have a tendency to be impatient and finish tasks quickly. Couples with differing finger lengths have a difficult time working together, says Lori Reid, author of Your Health in Your Hands.
Brothers & Sisters6 of 11
This is about to get borderline creepy, but bear with us. If you and your significant other ever get mistaken as brother and sister because you look alike, it's biology's way of suggesting you're compatible. Researchers from the University of Illinois morphed photos of a subject's face with strangers' faces and found participants considered the pictures with their faces the most attractive. Scientists theorize that people trust those who look familiar to them and favor genetically similar partners in order to increase the likelihood of their offspring's survival.
Take It Slow7 of 11
Wondering if he's lost that loving feeling? Suggest the two of you take an afternoon stroll. New research by Seattle Pacific University discovered when men are walking with a romantic partner, they do so at a significantly slower pace. When walking with a non-romantic partner, their pace doesn't change. So if he seems to be speed-walking ahead of you, it might be a big red flag.
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Language of Love8 of 11
According to a recent study from Texas Tech University, couples who used matching conjunctions and the same function words were more likely to be together three months later. Function words included personal pronouns like "he, " "she," "it," articles such as "a," "an," or "the" and the conjunctions "and," "or," "but" and "nor." While keeping track of it, an and the in your conversation may be tricky, try to note whether you and your guy are on the same page with and, or, but and nor.
The Power of We9 of 11
Another pronoun that signals a strong relationship: we. The Family Institute at Northwestern University found that couples who focused on telling "we stories"—shared stories between the members of a couple that define and guide their relationship—were more likely to stay together, even if their relationship had been strained in the past. The findings support an earlier study from UC Berkeley where researchers found that those who used "we" most often were better at resolving conflicts and reported more marital satisfaction.
What's Your Type10 of 11
We all have a type—and tall, dark and handsome isn't one of them. Following a 30-year study with 30,000 people, Dr. Helen Fisher, author of Why Him? Why Her?, determined that true love comes down to finding a counterpart whose levels of dopamine, serotonin, testosterone and estrogen complement your own. She divides personality into four types: explorers (who are most likely to choose other explorers), builders (who do best with other builders), directors (who favor negotiators) and negotiators (who match well with directors).
Face It11 of 11
Is he a short-term fling or long-term relationship material? Check out the width of his face for some insight. A recent study published in Psychological Science found that women perceive men with wide faces as "more dominant and more attractive for short-term relationships." However, because large facial width is also linked to undesirable traits like aggression, women were not interested in having long-term relationships with them.
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