When to Tell an Acquaintance About a Cheating Husband
Caroline Manzo puts the real in The Real Housewives of New Jersey, and her fans relate to the reality star's no-nonsense attitude, focus on family and, above all, abundant common sense. Check back at Glo every Monday as Caroline helps solve your most pressing dilemmas.
The Dilemma: What should I do if I know for a fact that my girlfriend's husband is cheating on her? Previously, with other friends, she has ended the friendship with them over the very same accusations. I know I would want someone to tell me, but this lady has a beautiful child under the age of 5, and you never really know what kind of "arrangement" they have together. We are not very close friends, but I know I'm not being a good friend by holding this in. What should I do? —Erin
Caroline's Ruling: The answer is in your question, Erin. Your friend has already been made aware of her husband's suspected infidelity, so obviously, this isn't breaking news.
She also appears to have made a decision on how to handle it. What she's willing to accept in her relationship is her business, and whether or not you'd want to be told if you were in her shoes really has no significance here.
You mentioned that she's ended previous friendships when the subject was brought up in the past, and I'm a little curious as to why you think that you bringing it up to her would be any different. I can only imagine how hurtful those words are to hear; in my opinion, they should come from someone she has a deep connection with, rather than from someone such as yourself, who—by your own admission—doesn't consider the friendship to be a close one. It's not your place to deliver that blow, so let it go.
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