How to Start Over in a New City
From marriage dilemmas to family issues, Caroline's got the answers!Photo by Michael T. Greco
Caroline Manzo puts the real in The Real Housewives of New Jersey, and her fans relate to the reality star's no-nonsense attitude, focus on family and, above all, abundant common sense. In this column, Caroline helps solve your most pressing dilemmas.
The Dilemma: I just moved to a new city with my husband for his job and I know absolutely no one. How can I go about making friends and creating a life for myself—other than work?
Caroline's Ruling: Relocating is never an easy thing, no matter how old we are. We leave behind friends, family and everything that is familiar to us and head off into uncharted territory.
I would suggest that you just go with the flow and let things progress naturally. You will find that there are people at work with the same interests as you and you will automatically gravitate towards each other.
If you like to exercise, then join a local gym—you never know who may turn up from the office or even from the neighborhood. Do you have a dog? Dog parks are popping up all over the place. Find one, bring your pooch for a walk and, in the process, you may find your other new best friend (pardon the pun). If you're an animal lover without pets, then volunteering at a shelter is a great way to meet like-minded individuals.
I don't know what your living arrangements are, but if you're in a development, then get involved with the social goings on, volunteer to be on committees, attend gatherings, etc. Look to see if there is a calendar of events in the lobby or common area of the facility. Also, simple things like going to neighborhood coffee spot, diner or deli will slowly but surely put you in front of new faces that live in the area.