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No Pain, No Gain?

Glo's writer explores the world of BDSM. Find out what she discovers about slaves, sexuality and herself.

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  • A second after the crop hits my skin, I feel a stinging sharpness, not specifically pain but rather as if all my nerve endings were shouting, "Hey, what's happening?" After about four or five more relatively gentle thwacks, I'm good. "Mercy," I say, and she stops.

    "Well?" she asks.

    "I can't imagine ever wanting this," I admit, "or wanting to do this to someone else."

    Miss Cybill points at the red blush appearing under the skin of my forearm. "Now feel," she says, as she delicately runs a fingernail over the spot—it's much more sensitive than usual to touch.

    And I realize enjoyment of BDSM is a wiring I do not have, if such hardwiring is indeed the case. I experience no intense ping! of pleasure or arousal at either pain or the thought of pain—but I can well understand the appeal of power play. One gives, the other takes; it's an erotic dance. Submitting to the will of another can be quite arousing, as can be wielding your own personal power over another. I don't fit comfortably in the role of either submissive or Dominant, but I can feel myself responding to components of both. Perhaps the desire for BDSM is neither black nor white, but truly shades of gray.

    Before I leave, I ask the Dominas if they ever feel sorry for the slaves. Their unambiguous answer: "Why?"

    Miss Cybill adds, "They're lucky to be able to serve Me."

    She's right. If a man or woman craves the sensations engendered by submission to a Dominant, or Domination of a submissive (both emotional and physical), and fulfilling those needs can be done safely and consensually, who are we to judge?

    After exchanging hugs goodbye and getting in my car, I experience my own adrenaline rush. It isn't sexual or arousing, but I feel empowered. Call it a contact high from the Domme Space. These women love what they do, and they're good at it. "I'm like a star athlete," Ms. Elena had told me. "I get to play every night!"

No Pain, No Gain?
Glo's writer explores the world of BDSM. Find out what she discovers about slaves, sexuality and herself.
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