How I Fought for My Marriage...and Won
One woman shares how she put the pieces back together
Looking back on that time, Michael insists he did want to save our marriage "but needed to know that you wanted to as well."
Not only that, but he was going through some personal problems of his own. He had finally moved into an industry he loved and was enjoying the camaraderie he found at work. He was frustrated by our inability to sell our condo and frustrated by the loss we were bound to take. He was scared of the huge step we were planning to take in trying to have children. He was scared of getting old.
With both of us feeling unloved and wrapped up in our own problems, we had stopped being good to each other. In fact, we were constantly on the defensive, because we each assumed the other had checked out.
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So how the hell did we come back from that?
1. We wrote Love Lists. Identifying everything we loved about each other reminded us of why we were in the relationship in the first place, and sharing our lists gave us each the warm fuzzies.