Second Time Around
Four Couples Who Got Divorced ... Then Remarried Each Other
Suzann and Clinton Sines (Click the arrow to see photos of the other couples featured in this story.)Courtesy of Woman's Day
Linda Thornton, JD, author of 20 Things to Know About Divorce, describes her marriage this way: “We were together for 30 years, not including that break when we were divorced.” She's not trying to be cute or facetious: Once she and her husband got back together (infidelity broke them up), “we were so solid and inseparable; it was as though that time apart didn't matter.” Sadly, Thornton's husband passed away in 2009, but she's not the only woman who has walked down the aisle with her ex-husband. Below, meet four other once-divorced, now-remarried couples and discover what they learned about making a marriage work — and what you can learn, too.
Suzann and Clinton Sines, Gaines, Michigan
In 1995, Suzann and Clinton Sines were 20- and 19-year-old newlyweds against the world. Well, against their families' approval, anyway. “We were very immature, and part of the decision to get married was because my mother was against it,” explains Suzann. In eight years of marriage, they had two children and several trial separations before divorcing in 2001. Suzann ended up moving to another town while their two boys stayed with their father, but the couple maintained communication in order to properly parent their children. “He never gave up on me,” says Suzann, and after a few years, when she'd moved back to be closer to her kids, “he told me he still loved me.” By 2005, they'd agreed to remarry, with their sons, then 5 and 8, serving as witnesses.
Why it worked the second time around: “I used to point out his faults, but now I look inside and acknowledge my own first,” says Suzann. Working on your marriage should be top priority, but don't ignore working on your own issues, too, seconds Paula Bisacre, founder of the remarriage-education resource RemarriageWorks.com. “If you've worked on self-growth and self-development while apart, you'll be in a better place when you get back together.”