Sex Life 101
6 Everyday Things That Affect Your Love Life
Feeling especially in the mood — or not? The reason could be as simple as what time it is. Check out these seemingly mundane factors that can dramatically change your love life. —Glo
By Woman's Day
Pets: According to Dr. Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., "Having a dog can change a couple's sleep cycle, which can affect their sex life. And if the pet gets in bed with a couple, that can also change their sex patterns." Dr. Herbenick recommends working with your partner to figure out how to maintain your intimate life in spite of your furry friend.
Books: Experts say that light erotic reading for about 20 minutes three times a week can increase your sex drive. With our busy lives, there's little time to just think about sex, so reading sexy literature can help you focus on sex and put you in the mood.
Time of Day: "Some are most interested in sex in the morning because they are well-rested and relaxed. For others, sex is the last thing on their mind when their alarm goes off,” Dr. Herbenick says. But just because you and your mate aren't on the same sex schedule doesn't mean you can't sync up. She suggests, "Try to be more flexible with each other and try to be intimate at different times of the day."
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Technology: The Online and Opinion Research Corporation found that 87 percent of wireless users bring their devices into the bedroom at night. Even if you don't intend to answer your phone during sex, just having it there can be distracting. Our brains become trained to react to our phones' tones, which makes them very difficult to ignore it, says Lou Paget, author of How to Be a Great Lover.
Breathing: "Just being aware of your breathing helps to move the sexual energy through your body," says sex and relationship expert Josey Vogels. "Deep breathing or even breathing in sync can help move energy back and forth between you, intensifying your connection," she adds.
Emotions: According to a study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, emotions may actually be good for a woman's sex life. The study found that women who are are more in touch with their feelings are two-and-a-half times as likely to orgasm as women who don't have as high emotional intelligence.
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