Why I Cheated On My Husband
5 Unfaithful Women Explain How You Can Learn From Their Mistakes
"My husband was abusive."
"From the day I married my husband, I knew it was a mistake," says 50-year-old Elizabeth Smith*. "He was abusive, controlling and expected me to quit my job to make a home for him." A little over a year into the marriage, she began having an affair with a man that she worked with. "I had no illusions that I was in love, but it was eye-opening to be with someone that made me feel good about myself, made me laugh, and respected me for who I was—not who he wanted me to be," she says. "The affair helped me find myself and proved to me that I could live a life independent of my husband. It also gave me the courage to ask for a divorce. Twenty-five years later, I'm married to a wonderful man. We love making each other happy, and never try to change who the other person is," she says.
What You Can Learn: While the confidence gained from the affair may have given her the spark she needed to get out of a bad relationship, New York City psychologist Michael E. Silverman, Ph.D., says that if you're in an abusive relationship, then deception isn't the best way to deal with it. Get help first from a trusted friend, family member, therapist or one of the numerous nationwide resources instead.
ON WOMAN'S DAY: Getting Past The Same Old Fights
- 10 ways to wear fashion's most addictive trend
- Yoga Poses for Every Sign
- Throw a 1920s themed party this holiday season
- The Ultimate Modern-Day Dining Guide
- How to have a work "husband"
- Totally Inappropriate Vintage Holiday Cards
- Gotta Have It: Glo's Latest Obsession