You're Married, Now What?
How to survive the post-wedding blues
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It's a cliché because it's true: Not all, but many women spend their whole lives fantasizing about their wedding day. They study diamond cuts, clarity and carats, they dog ear bridal magazines and they create multiple Pinterest boards dedicated to the occasion—all before getting engaged. And when he pops the question, efforts redouble.
With most engagements lasting 14 months (this according to a 2011 survey by TheKnot.com), excitement and expectations intensify. During the year-plus engagement, many couples spend roughly 10 hours a week planning the wedding, which on average costs $27,012, almost $1,000 more than the average median income in the United States.
Given that the stakes are so high, it's no wonder that brides often get the post-wedding blues. "We watch Disney cartoons and all kinds of romantic comedies that end with the couple getting married," says Nadia Digilov, author of Getting Married in New York. "No one tells us what happens next. Women feel like they've materialized a dream they've had since they've been little, and don't know what to look forward to after."